US Catholic Faith in Real Life

How to have better conversations with your kids

Four practices that can help parents and children move toward authentic conversation.

By Annemarie Scobey |
Article Lifestyle

Kevin and Amy have a rule at their dinner table for their three teenagers as well as themselves: What is said at the table stays at the table. “Our family committed to this when the children were young so they could express themselves without worry that their siblings or parents would talk to other people about what they shared,” Amy says. “They also don’t need to worry they are going to get in trouble for what they say. This has worked well for us, and some of our best conversations continue to happen at dinner.” 

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Visiting a child studying abroad? Few experiences are sweeter.

Traveling with adult children can be like parenthood turned upside down.

By Annemarie Scobey |
Article Lifestyle

I went to Spain so I wouldn’t need to make any decisions.

Liam, our 20-year-old, is spending this semester studying in Spain, and two of my friends offered to move into our home for a week and take on life with our two high-school daughters so Bill and I could visit him. The semester coincided with our 25th anniversary, and after asking each friend approximately 16 times if she was serious about the offer, Bill and I booked tickets and hotel rooms and didn’t plan anything else.

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How to make Mass mean more to kids

Teaching children to love Mass is much like teaching them to like vegetables.

By Annemarie Scobey |
Article Lifestyle

Parents who want their children to grow in appreciation for and commitment to Mass are much like parents who are determined to make sure their kids go off to college loving vegetables. Both recognize that their child’s best opportunity for adult physical and spiritual health will come out of the habits they establish in childhood.

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How to talk about injustice with your kids

Teaching kids about racial justice isn’t a one-time conversation.

By Meghan Murphy-Gill |
Article Your Faith

I was making dinner last January, my then-3-year-old following me around the kitchen like an insistent cat in want of food, when he asked me a question I didn’t immediately have an answer to. Last year was only the beginning of such questions, and though he’d already bombarded me around Christmas with deep theological inquiries about the conundrum of how Jesus’ father could be God while he at the same time is also God, I was unprepared for this new one.

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10 simple ways to keep faith and family central this Christmas

Help children find the holy in all parts of the holiday season.

By Annemarie Scobey |
Article Lifestyle

It is hard for a baby in a manger to compete with eight reindeer and Santa holding a huge pack of gifts. The anticipatory pause of Advent—quiet and dark blue—has a difficult time holding a candle to the glitter and colorful lights of a city’s exuberant holiday decorations. But what if we don’t need to compete? What if we can help our children find the holy in all parts of the holiday season?

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What John Mellencamp has to teach parents

Thrills aren’t just for kids.

By Annemarie Scobey |
Article Lifestyle Your Faith

Little ditty about Jack and Diane. Two American kids growin’ up in the heartland. John Mellencamp’s popular song makes me uneasy. Whenever it comes on the radio as I’m making the bed or driving the kids to school, I stop and listen. And the refrain that comes shortly after that famous beginning always startles me. Makes me swallow hard. Makes me bite my lip and check to see if it is true for me yet. 

Oh yeah, life goes on, long after the thrill of livin’ is gone. 

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How to find Advent in the Christmas chaos

Slow down and be present to the Christmas joy that surrounds you.

By Annemarie Scobey |
Article Your Faith

You won’t hear Christmas carols in church during the Advent season, but you will hear them everywhere else. How do we keep Advent a time of quiet preparation in the midst of a world that started singing “Joy to the World” the day after Thanksgiving?

One answer is to pull out your own Advent from the Christmas pieces that surround you. Slow down and be present to what you are hearing and allow the truth in the messages to ready your soul and lead you to find your family’s Advent in the midst of this busy season.

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This November, live out this spiritual work of mercy

How to teach your kids to show up for those who are sorrowful.

By Annemarie Scobey |
Article Lifestyle

Beginning with All Saints’ Day and ending with the final leaves falling off the trees before winter, November is a fitting reminder that death is part of the cycle of life. During this month, many churches invite their parishioners to put pictures of deceased loved ones on display. November—somber, gray, and serious—calls us to reflect on how we can bring comfort to those in our midst who have suffered a loss. “Comfort the sorrowful” is one of the seven spiritual works of mercy.

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Let Catherine of Siena find her way into your Toyota Sienna

‘Be who God meant you to be and you will set the world on fire.’

By Annemarie Scobey |
Article Your Faith

St. Catherine of Siena. Our Toyota Sienna minivan has an extra “n,” and on our busiest days I could be known as Annemarie of Sienna. (I did not include “Saint” before my name.) But I admired St. Catherine of Siena long before I needed three rows of seats to transport our family. 

St. Catherine of Siena said, “Be who God meant you to be and you will set the world on fire.” 

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Don’t shy away from tears, they are a sign of grace

In the face of God, sometimes we can’t help but cry.

By Annemarie Scobey |
Article Lifestyle Your Faith

I cried at my wedding. After we exchanged the vows I sat down next to Bill on the altar and the tears started.

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