Not even Alzheimer’s can erase God
The lines on her face indicate that Sister Miriam is well into her 80s. But she tells a visitor that she is 40.
It isn't a concession to vanity. In her mind Sister Miriam truly is 40. Minutes later, she is a young girl, walking through the fields with two of her siblings near the Irish village where she grew up. A torrential rain ensues and she prays to God to rescue them from the coming flood. He does.
Sister Miriam-not her real name-is beginning to suffer from a form of dementia. She lives in a community for the elderly on the East Coast, a facility much like many of the institutions she helped to lead in her younger years. One of those facilities was located in a Midwest city prone to flooding, perhaps explaining her current obsession with water.
Besides her memories, Sister Miriam lives in the present.
"I go through the building here three times a day," she tells her visitor. "I see if it's tidy, that everything is in order." She says she prays six times a day, "to help me to be a good person and to be very kind in every which way."
She is convinced that God is watching over this facility. Recently she encountered a depressed resident who was crying, saying that no one loved her. Sister Miriam took her hand and assured her that she was loved by an eternal God.
Sister Miriam may not, at times, make sense to some people. She may well be in her own world. Yet God is real to her, a presence who is loving yet demands a moral accounting-she often talks about God frowning upon violent behavior. Her religious imagination is as alive as ever.
That would not be surprising to Father John Malecki, a priest of the Diocese of Albany, New York and a psychologist who completed a doctoral dissertation on the spiritual lives of Alzheimer's patients.
Working as a chaplain at Teresian House, an Albany facility that cares for the elderly with dementia, he developed techniques to draw out the religious imagination of the patients. Most were judged to be in the middle stages of Alzheimer's. At first he found himself correcting the patients, bringing them back into present reality, an often-understandable reaction among those first encountering Alzheimer's patients. But as he continued his research, he found it better to just go along with them, to follow where their imaginations led.
He found that talking about patients' feelings in regular conversation was often impossible. So he used other means. He asked them to draw images. Some drew evergreens, which in Jungian psychological terms is sometimes seen as a symbol of life everlasting. He told them symbolic stories, including one about a man and his son who worked tirelessly to dig away a mountain that blocked their view of a beautiful valley.
What did the mountain represent? A patient responded quickly: "It's like our illness that keeps us from seeing the wonderful valley. But we hope and pray and persevere that we will see that valley."
He retold other patients the story of the Prodigal Son in the gospels. One nailed the symbolism. "God loves us with no strings attached," she said. Often, said Malecki, the response to religious stories was as on target as it would be from people without Alzheimer's.
Others saw their condition as an ongoing struggle with the Almighty. "Sometimes I fight with God and, at other times, I have the picture of embracing God in love," one patient told Malecki.
Even when dementia makes people unable to articulate and sense what is happening to them, Malecki notes that the religious imagination remains.
For Catholic patients the symbols of the Mass retained their power. He found, however, that taking the residents to a liturgy in a church or chapel disoriented them, moving them away from familiar surroundings. Yet when he celebrated Mass in their rooms, they recognized the familiar symbols of the chalice and the Eucharist.
Maggie Hume of Clifton Park, New York, says that Malecki's research helped her when she was taking care of her late mother who had Alzheimer's. She found herself more willing to listen to her mother's stories by "not looking at the person with a condition, [but by looking] at the person."
Carmelite Sister Peter Lillian of Germantown, New York, who ministers to people with Alzheimer's, has also found that Catholics with the disease often connect with symbols, such as the habit she wears as a member of her religious community. She finds that when she walks the halls patients will sometimes break out in a spontaneous recitation of the rosary, drawing upon some of their earliest religious imagery.
Holy Cross Family Ministries, based in North Easton, Massachusetts, has produced a guide to the rosary for those with Alzheimer's and their caregivers. The book notes that even when patients cry out in sometimes disturbing, inarticulate ways, their religious sense remains alive. "The disease does not kill the soul," says Malecki. "The spiritual life is growing." The protective and loving God that Sister Miriam prays to remains as alive as ever.Comments (13)
Alzheimers and nutrition
By Chad Humphrey (not verified) on Friday, December 11, 2009"My son, forget not my law; but let thine heart keep my commandments: For length of days, and long life, and peace, shall they add to thee."(Proverbs 3:1,2).
Alzheimer's is certainly influenced by environmental factors, and nutrition is an important consideration. It would be nice if our health care system worked in a manner that was more focused on prevention, and less on cures after the fact. Look into Fish Oil, and Vitamin D.
Alzheimer's
By Stephen Isabirye (not verified) on Wednesday, August 5, 2009In my forthcoming book, THE FAMOUS FIVE: A Personal Anecdotage, I discuss some of enid
Blyton’s Famous Five novels whereby she discusses the evolution of her Alzheimer’s Disease
through the forgetfulness of characters such as Uncle Quentin in Five Go to Billycock Hill and
the increasing bizarre behavior and forgetfulness of Professor Hayling in books such as Five Go
To Demon’s Rocks and Five Are Together Again.
Uncle Tony and Alzheimers
By Paul Nichols (not verified) on Friday, July 24, 2009After years of having Alzheimers,and in the last few weeks of his life, my uncle Tony was given the last rites on two different occasions. Father told me that at the end of both blessings uncle Tony made the sign of the cross. It seems kind of strange, but wonderful to know that uncle Tony was lucid enough to realise what was happening. Thank you Jesus!
beautiful testimonies
By Anonymous (not verified) on Wednesday, July 22, 2009beautiful testimonies affirming the Power of God and the Blessed Mother. Now,remember--never put human limitations on God and you already know how He takes care and is concerned for His children.
Even the most gifted and compassionate physician or psychiatric practicioner hasn't a clue as to what exactly going on inside the soul. Our Lord does and He is pleased and somehow this goes right back to these patients and that's why they exhibit grace and peace.
Alzheimer's disease - my own experience
By Margaret (not verified) on Wednesday, July 22, 2009Several years ago, a very dear friend of mine had alzheimer's disease. It was sad to see her going downhill rapidly until the time when she didn't know anyone. One day I was in the Adoration Chapel and I felt a very strong prompting to go and see her even though I hadn't planned a visit. When I got there I was shocked at how thin 'Jean' had got, I had my rosary in my hand and placed it between our two hands. I said to her, "Jean, you are so thin." I knew she couldn't hear me as she was stone deaf; I felt great compassion for her and prayed for her. Then she started to weep, and she said,"Why" I told her that I didn't know why but I did know that Jesus and Mary loved her. For the first time in ages Jean looked at me as if she knew me. When it was time for me to go and I said Good bye to her, she waved and said "Good bye" I felt a deep joy and peace in my heart afterwards and knew I had been blessed. 'Jean' died a couple of weeks later. But I do believe that 'Jean' experienced God that day.
dimentia and the Spirit
By Anonymous (not verified) on Wednesday, July 22, 2009My dad suffered froma hemorragic stroke.
EWTN became a constant "medication" in that I kept it on all the time.It was very healing.
Once I showed a picture of PADRE PIO to my dad since he was a patron for his mother and dad said, "Oh that's Joe Pio, he came and helped me."
Rosary and Mental Status
By Anonymous Margaret (not verified) on Tuesday, July 21, 2009I'm a 59 year old retired psychiatric nurse
with Dysexecutive Syndrome, a Cognitive
Disorder, which involves sorting, organizing,
and sequencing information. A rosary tape or
CD, which is prayed slowly with soft back-
ground music, allows me to mentally continue
to pray the rosary. This also works for The
Divine Mercy Chaplet; The Stations of the
Cross; The Jesus King of All Nations Devotion;
The Rosary of Tears (Chaplet of Tears of the
Blessed Mother). One must always pray from
the heart---which means slowly, with
meditation...'Then the Our Fathers will be
like jewels that sparkle or red roses; and
the Hail Mary's, like jewels or white roses
---jewels, and red & white roses that will
last for eternity. Said without "prayer of
the heart," the prayers are good for nothing
and are to be tossed out as dead flowers...'
[www.ChristinaGallagher.org (Our Lady Queen
of Peace)].
My mom
By Ellie (not verified) on Tuesday, July 21, 2009When my mother was still living at home, she used to pray the rosary every day with the EWTN channel on tv. She now has dementia and possibly Alzheimers and is in a nursing home. She cries a lot and makes quite a fuss which disturbs the other patients and is upsetting to our family. I brought up a tape player with a beautiful tape of the rosary. The nurses were amazed. She immediately calmed down and prays along with the tape. It works better than medication, Thank God and our Lady! They now play it for her when she is especially agitated and before she goes to bed.
my experiences
By KATHY (not verified) on Tuesday, July 21, 2009I visit an home for the elderly and we pray the Rosary for the end of abortion every Thursday. The alzheimer's patients immediately calm and pray the Rosary with such beautiful devotion. I have noticed as the weeks pass, the patients become more and more lucid--to the extent that they have their Rosaries and are ready to go to the living area where we pray. It is so beautiful to see them fingering their beads as they pray in strong and clear voices.
alzheimers & rosary
By Anonymous (not verified) on Tuesday, July 21, 2009While working night shift on the alzheimer's wing, we would hear report from the evening shift before they left. One resident always seemed to give the staff a problem with intense mumbling at bedtime and of course, they tried to calm and quiet her, making things worse. A nurse at a dest down the hall suddenly thought she recognized a rhythum and going to her, she joined in with "Hail Mary..." The resident calmed down immediately. The nurse found a rosary and placed it on her wrist and there was no more loud jibberish. We then tried it on the rest of the Catholics and dixcovered that they slept better. It works just as well with non-alzheimer's too. A few yrs. later in another facility, a woman broke her hip and fell. The pain was excrutiating and we were unable to medicate or transport til morning due to bad weather -- she was Catholic -- I gave her a Rosary and she was instantly releived of pain, even appologized for the disturbance later, Bless her soul. I always give my Catholic residents a Rosary at bedtime now.
